I had the chance to meet inspiring women who fight for our right to just be women. They had such influence in me, I found myself wondering what it is to be a woman.
I was stuck in something I heard: "We explore what it's like to be a woman, not a mother, a wife nor a daughter.". I guess this is quite a political and social matter, in fact, it's something we often discuss in some classes in college. Once, a professor confronted us by asking what defines a woman. Some answered that it's our genitalia, our social habits, however, there are always exceptions.
I've come to the conclusion that being a woman is a feeling.
Just last week, I was walking through the parking lot listening to Michael Kiwanuka's "Cold Little Heart", when it hit me.
As I heard my heels stepping onto the streets, and felt my hair sticking to my lips, I felt as much as a woman as I ever have.
At the age of 20, it is likely that this will be the peak of my beauty and figure, but I've come to realize that those are not at all the most important things to make you feel whole.
Being a woman is feeling that you can have an impact in the world, and knowing that when you make heads turn or when you're proud with what you see in the mirror. It's all about being fearless and bold.
I suppose this is all a social construction, these actions that I identify as empowering are mostly what other women built for themselves upon the need to validate why they do what they do. However, this doesn't discredit at all the fact that such processes make me feel it.
When I try to explain what the feeling is, various situations come to mind, and I realize that it all lies upon the strength that comes with being confident and recognized by others. As a professor once told us: it is by being recognized that a person becomes a person. For the specific case of women, I believe it's more than that, it comes with a social history behind it that forces us to seek further emancipation, to free ourselves from the chains of social barriers.
There is one image that perfectly illustrates this empowerment in motion: Dita von Teese, being the fatal, poignant woman that she is, being assisted by two gentlemen, as she accidentally drops her umbrella.
Perhaps this may all sound a bit radical to my fellow readers, perhaps this is only a fantasy in my mind, where I exist as sensual, fearless woman (unfortunately, I'm only a 157cm clumsy child-looking creature). Or maybe this short treatise is an appeal for all the ladies out there who reduce themselves, when they could all be Dita von Teeses.
I'd like to believe that our womanly influence is yet to reach its peak, and that we are all willing to work together to achieve social validation. I'd like to believe even further, that woman are able, altogether, to embrace and explore the power within them, regardless of whatever social conditions are imposed.
Don't be afraid to wear what makes you feel good, be brave and accept who you are. Whenever you're shamed for being too fat, for having pimples, or for wearing a revealing outfit, tell them they can go screw themselves.
This power is ours. This freedom is ours. Don't let the feeling escape.